|Chastity and the Male Submissive|
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You are a submissive male, you have a desire to serve a strong woman and have a desire to experience chastity and orgasm denial...
Perhaps you are a submissive male with a strong desire to experience denial and submission through chastity and orgasm denial. Chastity, either imposed or asked for by you, under a Dominant woman is a constant reminder of who is in charge and how she is the one who controls the submissive male's orgasms. Based on polls run on this site it's more likely that you, the submissive male, were the one to introduce chastity into your relationship. This is quite admirable! It's an important point in life the life of a submissive when you recognize your weakness and accept that you need help controlling your sexual fantasies and masturbatory compulsions.
These are just some of the reasons why submissive males are drawn into living a lifestyle of chastity and frustration.
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Denial of Sexual Favor: A major component of chastity training is to break the submissive male's demand for sexual favor. A Dominant woman can not be in control of her relationship if she grants her submissive sexual favor upon demand or request by the male. She needs to be the one in control of release. It's up to her to set the schedule or perhaps at her own whim of when and how her sub gets to achieve orgasm. If not, her submissive is simply topping from the bottom and at some point resentment will set in by her submissive as he begins to realize he is actually the one in control, even though he may actually desire to be controlled. It's "the fight" and "struggle" of the male submissive that will arise at some point. This struggle needs to be tamed or managed in productive manner to keep him in a constant submissive state of mind. Even men who know they are submissive still feel shame and guilt at there lifestyle decisions. At times the male psyche needs to be "consensually forced" to do what he actually wants to do, thus reducing some of the shame and guilt he might feel in his submission.
Training Tool: Chastity is a great training tool for submissive men. It focuses their energy on how to best serve their dominant. Why? Because in order to achieve an orgasm they must earn one. Just live Pavlov's dogs, if the submissive acts accordingly he gets a reward. Chastity is the tool to enforce a woman's dominance. Training could be taking place on several planes from: performing house hold chores, to dotting on the wife, opening doors, carrying bags in the mall, running a errand even though he is tired, to sexual service, to massages; manicures; pedicures and generally being at the service to his wife.
Sexual activity is denied as the chastity device counteracts against the urges of the mans sexual drive and is a good training tool to teach discipline and self control. Almost all Femdom's strive for a male with discipline and self control. No woman wants a irresponsible class clown as her submissive.
Another advantage of a chastity device is that the submissive male is usually forced to sit when he pees, though many men can get used to standing with a device on - but many times there is a mess as well. Women should require there man to sit to urinate, less splatter accidents occur as the male is sitting and reminded of his diminished status as compared to other males.
A Femdom relationship is one of mutual consent and exchange of power that meets the needs of a specific couple. Exchanging and giving power, especially sexual power and the power to deny you, to your wife or Mistress is a big step to take, however the life of a submissive male is never easy but can be extremely rewarding. Submissive men get to worship the women they love and adore. They get to show, live and feel what most men only get to dream about - The absolute worship and adoration of their loved one. That being said, sometimes the price you have to pay to worship your wife is to be placed in chastity for her...because she loves you and wants this for both you and her.
All About Chastity Belts
Chastity belts and devices are for men and women. The control of the genitals is one of the ultimate bondage experiences. A properly designed and fitted chastity device will definitely prevent intercourse with another person. Devices also can be designed to prevent or enhance stimulation of the genitals. They can be a truely frustrating experience. Originally these devices were invented to prevent cheating and unauthorized sex. Nowadays chastity has evolved to enhance sex play, is used for bondage/BDSM purposes and is also used for sexual control.
Why Use a Chastity Belt?