Some additional thoughts on "Elise Sutton" & her brand of "femdom" can be found here:

http://gloriabrame.typepad.com/inside_the_mind_of_gloria/2007/10/who-is-elise-su.html

That was written by Dr Gloria G Brame, If you're unaware of her, she's a real life kinkster, or to quote from the essay in that link, (note, she allows people to quote from her site, she stated as much in comments to others following the essay:

"Look. If a BDSMer doesn't question authority before surrendering to it, he or she is totally fucked. Meanwhile, if someone has one absolute definition of what a submissive or dominant IS or SHOULD BE, please let me know. Because I've been a hardcore lifestyler for 22 years, married 18 of them to a hardcore lifestyler and, for 6 of them, living with our hardcore slaveygirl. I did my Ph.D. on SM sex, I write books about it, my therapy practice is devoted to it - and I still couldn't DEFINE what makes a submissive submissive or provide a single set of rules that will solve everyone's problems. It would be like trying to define what makes a human being human or telling people that if they don't love the way I think they should love, they aren't feeling true love."

I have two of Dr Brame's books, "Different Loving" & "Come Hither", & they are excellent, full of factual & usable info on the lifestyle. But then, most people here probably wouldn't like them, since they are factual, not fantasy bullshit.

Anyway, read the essay. perhaps you might learn something.

Ok, if you're quoting Elise Sutton, then you're already quoting a bullshit artist. She claims to be a licensed & practictioning psycholgist, with a degree. Trouble is, her claimed "degree" is from a cuniversity that doesn't exist & never has!

If you've ever read her "Q&A" section, then you can see where she's a liar. I recall a question there from a man who was domineered, (which isnot the same as dominating), by his wife, not dominated. She had cut him off from his family, was driving them into financial ruin, & in general was killing him slowly with her ways.

Elise's "expert" advice? Not that they might need to try professional help, not that the man should be allowed to see his family, not that the wife control her reckless & domineering ways or perhaps even contribute financially to help the household. No, her "advice" was that the wife needed to take over more in the bedroom, & viola!!! All their problems would just magically go away!!! That's insane, especially from someone that claims to be a licensed psychologist..

She's nothing but a poser that gives out dangerous "advice". I'd stay as far away from her site as possible.

Now if my Wife decides to perform oral on me, (which She does at times, to tease or edge me), there's nothing wrong with that, as I & my body belong to Her, to use & control. It doesn't lessen Her dominance in any way to do as She pleases.

The more I read on this site, the less impressed I get. Too many here seem to have viewpoints about BDSM & male chastity that are wholly formed from fantasy or from internet bullshit, & have set them in concrete. I truly wonder how many are real life, & how many are merely masturbating to the thought/fantasy of it all?

About Ms. Sutton's "advice", I'd recommend trying to piss up a rope before taking anything she says as fact.

Heh. Maybe it's just me but i thoroughly enjoy being throatfucked with a strap-on. i love when my wife makes my eyes water and makes me gag because She is holding the back of my head while She fucks my mouth. It goes in easier with my slobber all over it when She decides I've had enough choking on cock and She bends me over for an ass-fucking. Really, who could ask for anything more?