But now enter reality. The truth is it's nearly impossible to find someone who totally fits you. You must gently probe your victim. No put away the dildo. The reason it has to be gentle is predictability is boring!  You must uncover what makes a person tick. Unearthing a deep dark well kept secret could prove to be most valuable. There's a tremendous amount of guilt and shame involved in submission. A submissive likes to live on the edge, bring them there and keep them dangling.

Now a guy being composed of 5% water, 20% beer, and 75% cum has one thing on his mind. If stranded a top a giant mountain gasping for air, given the choice between an oxygen tank or a blow job, he'd choose the latter figuring at least there's some air involved. Having said that he probably has very narrow minded fantasies. If you were to unearth these without him telling you, you better know cpr.

The actual teasing should be carefully orchestrated. A lot of people like to physically abuse the male genitalia when it is enslaved in chastity. These people lack at least 1 thing, male genitals. It's kind of cavemanish to stomp on someone's balls because you think it some how humiliates them. What such behavior does is cut off your connection to his squirming brain! It's like you had a dial up connection....the better you take care of his genitals the more likely you upgrade to an industrial connection. You have to realize something about nerves. The more pain you inflict upon them the less they react. The goal of teasing has little to do with the genitals. The genitals are the remote control. His head is what you're trying to change.

So it doesn't matter what the fantasy is. The idea is to create. You are trying to weave a web. It's a wickedly sinful web. If I'm caging someone's balls up I'm going to find out what really lies deep. Miss Ann I noticed had similar ideas regarding the probing. I agree with her on that level. Don't forget dynamics.