What is Male Chastity?

Male chastity when practiced as a lifestyle can be an all encompassing componant of a relationship, not just a sexual game. Chastity and D/s lifestyles tap in and blend the mind, body and emotions of the Dominant and submissive.  Chastity is an intellectual, physical, emotional and sexual experience.  It's an extension of control that a male submissive can truely relate too.  Control becomes real in a very physical scense and is enhanced by the intellectual response to this control of the male's sexual desire.

Male chastity is about tease and denial and control of the male's desire to achieve release. Chastity play is about creating wanting and longing in the male sex drive, but staying locked in a chastity device until orgasm is permitted by the dominant partner - usually the wife, girlfriend or Mistress.

The Spice of Chastity
Chastity is a powerful way to add excitement and eroticism to a relationship primarily by the use of chastity device.  Chastity is charged, erotic and exciting because the man is kept on the edge and though frequency of orgasms is not as often as the "normal" male, most appreciate the rare yet overwhelming orgasms that follow.  The release date, continuous tease and denial and control of the male orgasm is what makes chastity work.

First, chastity works best when practiced by a couple already in a loving, stable and sexual relationship.  The couple should be developing or already have open communication where both are able to openly discuss their fantasies, sexual topics and generally what they find erotic.  For many couples, especially where the male is hesitant to try chastity, talking and creating the fantasy is the way to approach the topic.  For many men it's a fairly big step to give up control and/or the possibility of experiencing "unwanted" pain or discomfort that would be caused by wearing a device.  This is one of the reasons for this site - to help create the fantasy and to provide education and insight into chastity play.

Simply put male chastity is about denying a man's ability to achieve orgasms, limiting sexual stimulation to his penis, and giving control of one's sexual release to a keyholder.  A keyholder is usually the female dominant in the relationship who holds the keys to the chastity device.  She makes the decisions as to when (release date), how often (frequency), and in what form the male will be allowed to achieve orgasm.  Form may be sexual intercourse, masturbation, prostatic milking and in a D/s context it could be by some form of humiliating act of sexual release.

For most practitioners of chastity it's not about the denial of sexual intercourse or sexual intimacy.  It's about the control of when and how orgasm will be permitted - while creating a build of tension from regular tease and denial play.  Some men and women have concerns of losing that "closeness and intimacy" that physical love making brings to a couples relationship.  Oddly enough, many report that "love making" and "intimacy" actually increase when chastity was introduced to the relationship.  Part of this is due to the re-focusing of the males sexual energy onto his female partner.  Again, many couples continue to engage in regular or even increased sexual relations and/or sex play.  It's just that the male partner is not achieving orgasm during every sexual encounter.  In a D/s context the pleasure is more focused on the dominant female partner...but the intimacy of the couple is still intact.

Again, chastity is not about denial of sex and intimacy.  It's about the build up of frustration and the hope and anticipation for orgasm which is the spice of chastity.  Now there are so many roads to follow in this cycle of "frustration, anticipation and finally orgasm" - tease and denial. We won't discuss them here but it comes down to how you and your partner decide to incorporate chastity play into your relationship - vanilla sex play, BDSM or in a FemDom lifestyle relationship.
 
For many submissive males it's about the willingness to please their dominant partner.  Knowing that by giving up power, pleasing his partner and bowing to the wishes of his Mistress he will earn orgasms.

For the dominant females it's about taking control and creating a charged environment where her pleasure comes first and she finds excitement and eroticism by exercising that control.

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Comments (14)

I would appreciate the meaning of a Woman, please! I ...
written by Zézette, December 02, 2007

I would appreciate the meaning of a Woman, please!
I thought that chastity belt are painful, obliging the boy to learn how to not erect. I wish to begin the real sex training of somebody.

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This Monday I will be traveling to see my Goddess who ...
written by slavevictor, October 12, 2007

This Monday I will be traveling to see my
Goddess who will release me from my CB2000. She has been training me for 2 months now. I am so excited for when she will take me and make me hers. She has explained everything thats instore for me and I have been waiting patiently.

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Male Chasity?...is cerebral heaven for my sissyslave ...
written by torrelunga48, September 13, 2007

Male Chasity?...is cerebral heaven for my sissyslave Charlotte!!!
Master Donovan

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I have been locked in my CB 3000 now for 21 days. ...
written by Peter S, August 14, 2007

I have been locked in my CB 3000 now for 21 days. Tomorrow i will be prostate milked. She will give me a good handjob, but first after she had a good sex with here 'friend'. Unfortunately they will not meet in 14 days, so i have to wait to be satisfied.

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I love to be put in a cage, online Please hit me up ...
written by erik, March 12, 2007

I love to be put in a cage, online
Please hit me up Mistress

Your real slave ?

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there is nothing that compares to having the woman of ...
written by locked up till she says, November 18, 2006

there is nothing that compares to having the woman of your life control your sex! Being locked, frustrated and chaste is a state of mind that focuses me totally on my wife I am so lucky to have a wife that understands and demands that i lock up my sex and give her the key!

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i wear my cb2000 all the time and only get a release ...
written by tvsub, September 22, 2006

i wear my cb2000 all the time and only get a release when the Mistress says so which is usually about 30 days.

jamie

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Is there a chastity device that is not painful when ...
written by Victoria Johnson, September 13, 2006

Is there a chastity device that is not painful when you have a morning erection,
can you do some thing to prevent the pain?

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Is there a chastity device that is not painful when ...
written by Victoria Johnson, September 13, 2006

Is there a chastity device that is not painful when you have a morning erection,
can you do some thing to prevent the pain?

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Is there a chastity device that is not painful when ...
written by Victoria Johnson, September 13, 2006

Is there a chastity device that is not painful when you have a morning erection,
can you do some thing to prevent the pain?

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Answer to Victoria. Wearing a Neosteel belt does not ...
written by Bobbybig, September 13, 2006

Answer to Victoria. Wearing a Neosteel belt does not cause pain when the body is trying to get aroused.The cock is enclosed in a warm smooth steel tube and it feels good when it is trying to expand.

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We are a mature couple in our 50's. My wife/mistress ...
written by SHE & he, August 26, 2006

We are a mature couple in our 50's. My wife/mistress had me in a lock down for 90 days. This punishment was for disobedience to her. 90 days is like hell. I am more obedient now.

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24/7 ...
written by nico, August 01, 2006

24/7 chastityslave

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It was 32 days and 12 hours locked in my CB 2000 ...
written by Maid_Josie, May 21, 2006

It was 32 days and 12 hours locked in my CB 2000 chastity cage. MISTRESS KATE (katindrag) gave me permission to cut the plastic lock off and cum for 2 days, after the secound day I must relock my cage back on and wait for my next release. I came 3 times a day (6 Times) and I had to eat all the cum. I will be eager to be rleased again to eat more.
During my forced chastity, I had to be used ans abused by 2 cross dressers and they fucked me and I sucked thier balls and cocks, in the end they came on my face and I still was not able to remove my cage nor cum I had to wait 32 days.
SLUT Josie

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